Are you the person you want to be?

Quiz image for authenticity and self confidence


The best time to do self-reflection is when you are feeling unfulfilled, unhappy, dissatisfied, discontent and unsuccessful.  Self-reflection helps you to understand the reasons behind these negative feelings.

Many of us ignore the feelings/symptoms and hope that things will improve on their own.  Well guess what, if you don’t take action things will stay the same and discontentment continues.

The start of a new year is a popular time to set goals for the 12 months head, however it’s not just the start of a new year when you should do some self-reflection, it’s at times when you are experiencing any of those feelings as described above.  

Goals are often focused on the act of doing, but what about the act of being?

Setting challenges to get more active or learn a new skill definitely have a place, but this is also the ideal opportunity to think about the person you are and how this compares with the person you want to be.

You have the power to make positive changes and be the best version of yourself. 

If you’re still on the journey to becoming the person you truly want to be, here are a few steps you can take.

1. Have a Vision

By building a vision of the kind of person you want to be and the kind of qualities you want to possess, you’ll have something to strive towards. Like any goal in life, it helps to have a ‘target’ in mind.

2. Believe in Yourself

If you’re motivated enough to do something and have the belief that you will achieve it,   there’s no reason why you can’t. Be positive and don’t feel discouraged. You’ll get there!

3. Be Authentic

There’s no joy in trying to be someone that you’re not, but you can strive to be the best version of your authentic self. For example, you can’t force ourself to be the most outgoing person in the world if you’re simply not, but you can make the effort to be friendly and approachable.

4. Reflect on Your Past and Future

Looking back five years ago, where did you think you’d be today?

How does this match up with reality? This will serve as a reminder of how grateful you are for what you have achieved over the years. If you’re not quite where you wanted to be, it’s possible there are learnings you can take from this. Now think about where you’d like to be in five years’ time and set some mental goals.

5. Learn from the People You Most Admire

Think about the people in your life who you look up to the most – they could be friends, family, your partner, colleagues or someone you barely know. There’s obviously a reason why you’re so fond of them, so think about what traits you like the most. Are they considerate? driven? forgiving? Once you’ve identified the qualities you value the most in a person, you can do your best to channel these traits yourself.

6. Appreciate Yourself

Now think about what you like about yourself. There may be room for improvement in places, but there will most definitely be things that others love about you and therefore, you should love about yourself too.

7. Think about What’s Important to You?

While some people are ambitious and put their careers first, others dream of building a family and leaving employment to focus on parenting, or even jetting off to travel the world. None of these paths are the ‘correct’ one and you shouldn’t feel pressure to fit a certain mould just because other people do. Really consider what’s most important to you and what will bring you the most happiness in the long run.

8. Stop Worrying about What other People Think

It’s important to be kind and respectful of others, but if you’re not doing anything harmful, their opinions about you really shouldn’t matter. Humans are social creatures and it’s natural to want to feel accepted by others, but worrying too much about what people think of you can have a negative impact on your well-being.

If you are ready to make the changes necessary in your life to be the best you can be and move forward to achieve the success you desire…

Contact with me today by calling me on 07702 818 665 or email me

I look forward to hearing from you.

Best Wishes

Andree Funnell