Self-sabotaging behaviours prevent you from conditioning yourself for success. Changing those long, established behaviour patterns like self-sabotage is as difficult as recognising and understanding them. These are known as ‘Limiting Beliefs’, ‘Imposter Syndrome’ or ‘Inner Critic’.
How, then, can you eliminate sabotaging beliefs and emotions?
Firstly, understand and accept yourself before attempting to understand and accept others. You have to take a journey within for personal evaluation. This means looking inside yourself and listening to your inner dialogue or self-talk.
Remain open minded to what you see and hear when understanding your beliefs. This is essential when making constructive changes in your behaviours. Deciding how far and deep you want to go before introspection is your decision.
However, you can take your life to a new level when you discover empowering insights to eliminate damaging self-talk and undermining behaviours.
Firstly, you need to let go of self-sabotaging behaviours that prevent you from changing which takes courage. Before you go around believing you can change the beliefs and behaviour of others, you have to first change yourself.
What does this mean?
It means overcoming resistances and sabotaging behaviours that have prevented you from experiencing an optimistic attitude. Furthermore, developing an optimistic attitude, and changing unrewarding behaviours and beliefs, will awaken you to eliminate self-sabotaging behaviours.
What Action can you take?
What specific actions can you now take to become aware of and overcome your self-sabotage in terms of your beliefs and self-defeating emotions?
- Recognise that you are at the crossroads where your decisions and choices are yours and yours alone.
- Realise that you’re the one making the conscious decision to change your damaging self-talk and undermining beliefs and behaviours. No one else can do it for you.
- Change “I can’t” or “I won’t” to “I Can, I Will” on a consistent basis. Pay attention to the emotional changes going on within you. Be prepared to physically describe your changes and write them down every day. Measure your progress by the visible reoccurrences of positive self-talk and healthy behaviours. Continual negative self-talk will create resentments and disempowering beliefs. Self-resentment is the seed that grows into self-sabotaging behaviours.
- Plant the seeds that produce positive, empowering beliefs and actions. Ask yourself, “Are my actions linked to pleasure-producing situations or to pain-producing situations?” Take the road that gives you pleasure, not grief. The personal growth experienced from facing a fearful or painful event, or adversity, is important for self-improvement. However, don’t make a steady diet of it. You can grow and change by cultivating positive emotions such as joy, excitement, and happiness.
We all at times in our lives self-sabotage our career, relationships, future and more. It’s not until we recognise when and why we are doing it that we are able to change our behaviour and move forward.
Our ‘Behind the Mask’ training and Coaching programmes will help you to identify points 1-4 above and more. https://afcconsultants.co.uk/personaldevelopment/behind-the-mask/
How we can help
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