Living authentically – living the life you desire

3 questions to ask yourself that will reveal whether you are living authentically and are living the life you desire

At some point or another, it’s common for people to find themselves feeling dissatisfied in life but unable to put their finger on what is causing this emotion. On the surface, you may feel perfectly fine in all areas of your life, but deep down you know that something isn’t quite right. The question is are you living authentically?

If this resonates with you, it could be because you’re not living the life you really desire for yourself. Hence, you may be striving for something more and you may not even realise it.

First of all, it’s natural to fall into routine or settle on complacency; to base your life on other people’s or  Inevitably  in line with society expectations.   But what if that’s not what you truly want from your life? Life is short, so you need to make sure you’re putting that time to good use.

If you want to achieve happiness and fulfilment, you must first identify what your biggest purpose, goals and values are. Ask yourself the following three questions and take the time to really think deeply about the answers. Furthermore, you may discover things about yourself and your life that can motivate you to make positive changes and lead your best possible life.

1. ‘What brings you the most joy?

Looking at all areas of your life – your job, your hobbies, your home life – think about what you really enjoy doing the most. What brings you the most authentic joy and are you living authentically? It could be that your career is your passion, or perhaps travelling to new places excites you. It could even be that you feel your most content when curled up on the sofa with a loved one watching TV.

Now, consider whether you dedicate much time to this activity. Or is it something that you simply don’t have the time for?

Whatever it is, it’s important that you dedicate the time to doing the things that you love the most, this could lead you to being a happier person for it. If you’re crazy about travelling, save up those pennies and put your annual leave to good use – or perhaps if it’s something you want to pursue long-term, hop on that plane and take the plunge! If you love a cosy night in, don’t feel the pressure to Friday night invitations. Get a takeaway and savour the down time. Or, if you genuinely love your job, fantastic! Strive for your career goals.

2. Do I feel happy when I wake up each day?

The way you feel first thing in the morning when you just begin to come around can tell you a lot about your subconscious mindset. Before your conscious mind has even kicked in, your brain can determine your mood.

In addition, ask yourself how you honestly feel when you open your eyes. Do you feel naturally optimistic about the day ahead; is it easy for you to get out of bed? Or, is there a lingering feeling of negativity or dread?

If it’s the latter, it may be time to assess where these feelings are stemming from. If you dread going into work, it could be time to look for something new. Or if a relationship is getting you down, you might want to address the issue or decide if it’s a relationship you want to be in.

Listen to your gut feeling.

3. Are the people around me enriching my life and am I enriching theirs?

Another significant contributing factor to our happiness in life is the people in it. High quality personal and professional relationships can boost confidence, provide us with motivation and generally improve our mental well-being.

With this in mind, have a think about the people in your life – the ones who play the biggest role and have the most influence over you. Are they enriching your life; impacting your life in a positive sense? Do they make you feel good about yourself and encourage you to be the person you want to be? Or do they put you down, encourage an unhealthy lifestyle or push you in a direction you don’t want to go? 

If their presence in your life is holding you back from being who you want to be and doing what you want to do, don’t be afraid to distance yourself.

On the other hand, take a look at yourself – are you enriching your loved ones lives? If you don’t think that you’re a providing them with a positive influence or support, it may be time to rethink your attitude and how your own behaviour can affect others. “If I were someone else, would I like me?” can be really reflective question to decipher whether you are being the most authentic version of yourself. The question is are you living authentically?

In conclusion, authenticity is the subject of my new book ‘Behind the Mask’. So many of us create ‘masks’ that we wear in different areas of our lives, based on how we think we should behave, rather than how we want to behave. I explain how to break down the barrier that is preventing you from being your true authentic self and how to find genuine fulfillment in life.

If you would to reserve a signed copy of the book then fill in the contact form on my book website or email me with your contact details.