Self Reflection

What do you really want in life?

When it comes to living your most authentic life, having something to strive towards will go a long way. But, crucially, it needs to be something that you genuinely desire. 

Furthermore, in an ideal world, we’d all have a crystal clear vision of what we want to do, who we want to be and what we need to do to achieve these things. For some this comes easily, but for many others it can take some time to figure out.

If you fall into the latter of the two groups, there are a few things that you can reflect on in order to find out what you truly want in life.

Identify your biggest passions

Remember the times when you were genuinely excited by something you were doing and how it made you feel motivated and engaged. This could be a hobby, or even something with career potential. Do you love to travel? To write? To paint?

Now consider how you can integrate these passions into your life more. If it’s a hobby, think about how you can free up some more time to dedicate to it. For example, swapping a night in front of the TV for a night in front of the easel. Or, if it’s something you could see yourself doing as a career, create a plan for how you can turn this dream into a reality; e.g. taking up freelance writing on the side. 

Consequently, life is too short not to be doing the things that make you truly happy.

Ask yourself what you’d be doing if you had no ties

I’m not saying you should disregard the needs of others around you and the responsibilities that come with having a family or other commitments, but sometimes you need to stop making decisions based on other people and do things for yourself.

Take a moment to imagine a life where you have no one else depending on you; where you’re free to make entirely selfish decisions. What would you be doing? Where would you be living?

While some of these things may not be realistic or possible, there are lessons to be learnt from this vision, such as goals to set yourself and dreams to strive for.  

Envisage your life in 5 years

This might sound like a job interview cliche, but the exercise of making a mental five year plan can actually reveal more about your desires for the future than you’re aware of on the surface.

Picture what you’d like your life to look like – if it’s pretty similar to your life as it exists now, chances are you’re already living your most authentic life. If, on the other hand, you see it looking a bit different, you can use this to identify the changes you could make to start living the life you really want.

Take a look at yourself

Living life authentically isn’t all about doing the things that make you feel fulfilled, but also about being the person that you want to be.

Questions to ask yourself are:

  • Do I treat people the way you would want to be treated yourself?
  • Am I able to express my true personality in work and social situation?
  • Do I wear a mask to protect myself and portray the person whom you believe society expects you to be.

In conclusion, self-awareness and self-reflection are two of the most valuable attributes you can possess. It helps you to stay in tune with your wants, desires and goals, while remaining switched on to how your behaviour is likely to impact yourself and others.

Removing the mask to achieve authenticity is something I discuss in more depth in my new book ‘Behind the Mask’. You can get your copy at or on Amazon.

If you want to learn more about self-reflection and self-awareness then contact me today on 07702 818665.